Happiness isn’t what you chase, but what you invite. Therefore, there are certain overrated things you must ignore to be happy.
In this article, we will share with you the top five things you should ignore if you must create a peaceful and joyful atmosphere within and around you.
- People’s Criticism and Unhealthy Opinions
People will find ways to criticize you regardless of your position or condition in life. If you are doing great, they will possibly say “you aren’t doing enough to leave your comfort zone”
And if you are struggling to make things happen, the same set of people will accuse you for being lazy when it is obvious you are doing your best to change situation.
Listening to their criticism and discouraging opinion will have negative impacts on your level of joy and happiness.
Instead, turn a deaf ear to their comments. Live your life the best way you can and don’t hesitate to take the right steps when necessary.
Don’t let people’s thoughts force you into doing what you don’t like. See their criticism as source of motivation while you keep progressing at your own commendable pace.
- Past Errors or Mistakes
You have always heard that no one is perfect, so don’t feel too bad about your past mistakes. Learn to forgive yourself and move one.
See past errors as one of the unwanted and avoidable conditions you should experience in your desire to become a better person.
The past is gone, you can’t change it. Let it go. Focus on the present and future. Learn from the mistakes but don’t repeat them.
Some people worry so much about failure that they don’t even have the courage to chase after their dreams.
You have got to stop worrying about failure to be successful and happy in life. Go for whatever you desire and learn from it.
As much as failure isn’t a commendable attribute, it helps you learn and grow in life as long as you see it as source of motivation – not condemning setback.
Start that your projects now; derive joy and happiness from it. Keep learning and growing without thinking of failure.
There will be setbacks but don’t give up because that’s the only way to succeed in your chosen career.
Meanwhile, failure isn’t a big deal except you make it look like one because reaction to failure matters a lot.
- Things You Don’t Have
Here’s a short story from my past. It no longer news that I had a tough time growing just as stated in my bio.
I somewhat felt bad whenever my friends updated their latest images on their social media because I always thought “I ought to be in this position if things had gone well”
However, I summoned the courage to upload one of my picture with a caption that reads “When there is life, there is hope” because I was thinking of what I didn’t have than the little I had.
I was surprised when my sibling comment and said “you should be happy with what you have. Besides you are doing exceptionally fine”
At that moment, I realized how ungrateful I was. I learnt how I have been unhappy over what I haven’t accomplished.
I said that story to let you know why you shouldn’t think too much about what you don’t have. Instead, look at what you achieved and be happy.
Remember that Christian hymn that says: “count your blessings, name them one by one and it will surprise you what the lord has done”
Don’t let material things determine your level of joy and happiness. Be grateful and contend with what you have while you pursue other landmark achievements.
- People’s Demanding Expectation
People’s expectation can be very daunting and cumbersome that you will hurt yourself while trying to meet them.
You shouldn’t be too concerned about proving everybody wrong because you are not accountable to anyone.
Instead of trying to meet everyone’s expectations, focus on yourself and try to beat your personal record.
Ensure that your today is better than yesterday while your tomorrow (future) promises to be much better than today. Leave your comfort zone where and when necessary to achieve your goals and targets.
One of the ways to achieve this involves knowing how to maximize your time for high productivity and how to set and achieve some obtainable goals.
Your level of happiness shouldn’t be measured by the things you have achieved. It shouldn’t be determined by people’s opinion or comments.
Learn to live your life the best you can. Self love is very crucial to your chances of breaking limits. So, don’t underestimate your worth.
Explore your skills; maximize your potentials; and don’t stop believing in yourself even when friends and family doubt your ability to turn things around.